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SCREAMS OF A HEART OLD VIRGIN
The phenomenon of the increasing number of women who married late ( spinster ) into the current cases intimidating , threatening most of the girls and women in an Islamic society , even in the whole world . Here let us listen to one of them screams :Usrah magazine Al - Qa `dah 1420 edition 80 H transcribe old virgin screams from Medina Munawaroh , " At first I was very hesitated before writing to you because of the fear of women because I knew that they would say that I am mad, or possessed . However , the reality that I experienced and also experienced by a large number of old virgins , which no one knows , make ventured . I will write my story briefly .
When I was started nearly 20 years , I like the other girl dreams of a young man who multazim and noble . I used to build the rationale and expectations ; later how we live and how we educate our children ... and .. and ...
I was one of the very fight ta'adud ( polygamy ) . Just simply hear people say to me , " So and so got married again a second " , I found myself praying that he hurt. I said , "If I was his wife - first - surely I would dump him , as he had dumped me ' . I often discuss with my brother and sometimes with my uncle about ta'addud problem . They try to make me want to accept ta'addud , while I remain stubbornly unwilling to accept Shari'ah ta'addud . I told them , ' It is impossible another woman would accompany my husband along with me " . Sometimes I am the cause of problems -problems between husband and wife because he wanted to forge his first wife ; provoke me to her husband so that he fight .
Anyway, the day went by while I'm still waiting for my dreams of youth . I'm waiting ... but it has not arrived and I'm still waiting . Nearly 30 years of my life on hold . 30 years have passed ... oh divine , what should I do ? Do I have to go out to look for the groom ? I am not able , people will say this woman have no shame . So , what would I do ? Nothing I can do , other than wait .One day when I was sitting , I heard one of the ladies said , ' fulanah be an old maid " . I said to myself , "Poor fulanah be an old maid ," but ... fulanah meant that I found myself . Yes divine ! Indeed it is my name ... I 've become an old maid . However I describe it to you , you will not be able to feel it . I am faced with a reality as a spinster . I began to repeat the computation - count, what I do ?As time passed , the day after another , and I wanted to scream . I want a husband , a man where I shelter in its shade , to help resolve the problem ... My brother - problemaku male melalaikanku does not in the slightest, but he is not like a husband . I want to live ; want to give birth , and enjoy life . However , I am not able to say these words to the men . They will say , " This woman is not shy " . There's nothing I can do other than silence . I laugh ... but not from my heart . Do you want me to laugh , while hand holding burning coals ? I can not ...
One day , my brother came to the greatest , saying , "Today I have come the bride and groom , but I refused ... " Unwittingly I said , " Why are you doing ? It should not be ! " He said to me , " Because he wants you as his second wife , and I know that you are very combat ta'addud ( polygamy ) " . I almost shouted before him , " Why do not you agree ? " My wife was willing to be second , or third , or fourth ... Both my hands in the fire . I agree , yes my first fight ta'addud , now accept it . My brother said , " It's too late "Now I know the wisdom in ta'addud . The wisdom of this has made me accept , what wisdom - the wisdom of others ? O Allah , forgive my sins . Actually I did not know beforehand . These words I addressed to men , " Berta'addud the one , marry one , two , three , or four with a capable and fair terms . I remind you with his words , " ... then marry to you what is better for you than a woman , two , or three , or four , so if you are afraid of not being able to do justice, then one ... " Save us . We are human beings like you , feel the pain too . Cover us , have mercy on us . "
And these words I addressed to my sister who had married a Muslim , " Celebrate this delicious since you do not feel the heat of the fire into an old maid . I hope you're not angry if your husband wants to marry another woman again . Or do you prevent it , but encourage it . I know that this is very hard on you . However , expect a reward from Allaah . Look at the state of being a virgin suadarimu old , divorced women , and widows ; anyone who will protect them ? Suppose he is your sister , you will surely get a huge reward with patience "
You might say to me , " There will come a bachelor who would marry her " . I say to you , " Look at the population census . Actual number of women more than men . If any man married to one woman , undoubtedly many of our women are becoming an old maid . Do not just think of themselves . However , also think about your sister . Suppose you are in a position " .You might also say , " All that does not matter to me , the important thing is not to marry my husband again . " I say to you , " The hand that was not like a hand in water that was on fire. It might happen . If your husband remarried to another woman , know that this world is transitory , lasting akhira . Do not be selfish , and do not hinder the sister of favor . It will not be perfect faith in someone that he loves for his brother what he loves for himself " . ( 1 )
For the sake of Allaah , if you feel the fire of an old maid , then you get married , you would say to your husband "Marry my sister and take care of it " . O Allah, we beg you glory , purity, and a husband who worships "
A.A.N - Medina1 . HR . Bukhari in the book of the Muslim Faith No. 13 and No. 45 .book "My wife marrying me " , As- Sayyid bin Abdul Aziz As- Sa'dani , Darul Falah , cet . August 2004-----Hopefully useful and Taken to His Wisdom ...
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SCREAMS OF A HEART OLD VIRGIN
The phenomenon of the increasing number of women who married late ( spinster ) into the current cases intimidating , threatening most of the girls and women in an Islamic society , even in the whole world . Here let us listen to one of them screams :Usrah magazine Al - Qa `dah 1420 edition 80 H transcribe old virgin screams from Medina Munawaroh , " At first I was very hesitated before writing to you because of the fear of women because I knew that they would say that I am mad, or possessed . However , the reality that I experienced and also experienced by a large number of old virgins , which no one knows , make ventured . I will write my story briefly .
When I was started nearly 20 years , I like the other girl dreams of a young man who multazim and noble . I used to build the rationale and expectations ; later how we live and how we educate our children ... and .. and ...
I was one of the very fight ta'adud ( polygamy ) . Just simply hear people say to me , " So and so got married again a second " , I found myself praying that he hurt. I said , "If I was his wife - first - surely I would dump him , as he had dumped me ' . I often discuss with my brother and sometimes with my uncle about ta'addud problem . They try to make me want to accept ta'addud , while I remain stubbornly unwilling to accept Shari'ah ta'addud . I told them , ' It is impossible another woman would accompany my husband along with me " . Sometimes I am the cause of problems -problems between husband and wife because he wanted to forge his first wife ; provoke me to her husband so that he fight .
Anyway, the day went by while I'm still waiting for my dreams of youth . I'm waiting ... but it has not arrived and I'm still waiting . Nearly 30 years of my life on hold . 30 years have passed ... oh divine , what should I do ? Do I have to go out to look for the groom ? I am not able , people will say this woman have no shame . So , what would I do ? Nothing I can do , other than wait .One day when I was sitting , I heard one of the ladies said , ' fulanah be an old maid " . I said to myself , "Poor fulanah be an old maid ," but ... fulanah meant that I found myself . Yes divine ! Indeed it is my name ... I 've become an old maid . However I describe it to you , you will not be able to feel it . I am faced with a reality as a spinster . I began to repeat the computation - count, what I do ?As time passed , the day after another , and I wanted to scream . I want a husband , a man where I shelter in its shade , to help resolve the problem ... My brother - problemaku male melalaikanku does not in the slightest, but he is not like a husband . I want to live ; want to give birth , and enjoy life . However , I am not able to say these words to the men . They will say , " This woman is not shy " . There's nothing I can do other than silence . I laugh ... but not from my heart . Do you want me to laugh , while hand holding burning coals ? I can not ...
One day , my brother came to the greatest , saying , "Today I have come the bride and groom , but I refused ... " Unwittingly I said , " Why are you doing ? It should not be ! " He said to me , " Because he wants you as his second wife , and I know that you are very combat ta'addud ( polygamy ) " . I almost shouted before him , " Why do not you agree ? " My wife was willing to be second , or third , or fourth ... Both my hands in the fire . I agree , yes my first fight ta'addud , now accept it . My brother said , " It's too late "Now I know the wisdom in ta'addud . The wisdom of this has made me accept , what wisdom - the wisdom of others ? O Allah , forgive my sins . Actually I did not know beforehand . These words I addressed to men , " Berta'addud the one , marry one , two , three , or four with a capable and fair terms . I remind you with his words , " ... then marry to you what is better for you than a woman , two , or three , or four , so if you are afraid of not being able to do justice, then one ... " Save us . We are human beings like you , feel the pain too . Cover us , have mercy on us . "
And these words I addressed to my sister who had married a Muslim , " Celebrate this delicious since you do not feel the heat of the fire into an old maid . I hope you're not angry if your husband wants to marry another woman again . Or do you prevent it , but encourage it . I know that this is very hard on you . However , expect a reward from Allaah . Look at the state of being a virgin suadarimu old , divorced women , and widows ; anyone who will protect them ? Suppose he is your sister , you will surely get a huge reward with patience "
You might say to me , " There will come a bachelor who would marry her " . I say to you , " Look at the population census . Actual number of women more than men . If any man married to one woman , undoubtedly many of our women are becoming an old maid . Do not just think of themselves . However , also think about your sister . Suppose you are in a position " .You might also say , " All that does not matter to me , the important thing is not to marry my husband again . " I say to you , " The hand that was not like a hand in water that was on fire. It might happen . If your husband remarried to another woman , know that this world is transitory , lasting akhira . Do not be selfish , and do not hinder the sister of favor . It will not be perfect faith in someone that he loves for his brother what he loves for himself " . ( 1 )
For the sake of Allaah , if you feel the fire of an old maid , then you get married , you would say to your husband "Marry my sister and take care of it " . O Allah, we beg you glory , purity, and a husband who worships "
A.A.N - Medina1 . HR . Bukhari in the book of the Muslim Faith No. 13 and No. 45 .book "My wife marrying me " , As- Sayyid bin Abdul Aziz As- Sa'dani , Darul Falah , cet . August 2004-----Hopefully useful and Taken to His Wisdom ...
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